January was a whirlwind, and I have absolutely decided that I am going after CALM this year. I think you should too. It is possible to find more calm and quiet time.
This is something I am trying to be more and more intentional about. I have talked about it, added it sometimes to my life, but this month I realized how much I want it in my life, need it in my life….and how I am the one that has to create it.
I know, I know…I hear you already. Sure…I would love to have some calm in my life too. (with a lol and eye roll at the end)
I Get It
I have said that before too. Because finding more calm, quiet, peace or alone time in your life is near impossible most times. Not only that…but it is pretty unpopular and not always encouraged.
You know…like, what is wrong with you? Aren’t you busy? Why aren’t you running all over? How could you actually be just sitting here right now by yourself?
I have laughed with a girlfriend about this before. Especially, because many times someone very close to you, possibly your spouse, is wondering why you are sitting still, taking a casual walk alone, or insisting on driving separate to a kid’s activity. Like…Why on earth would you want time to do NOTHING?!?
More Calm is Possible and Necessary
So, this is the deal. Quiet, and peace, and calm, is absolutely necessary for mental health, happiness, creativity, patience, gentleness, and less anxiety. Not many people will give you their blessing and help you find your own “quiet time”. But…I encourage you. I give you permission, and I am telling you it is necessary.
In order to find it….here are some tips. Humor me for a bit please….it really CAN be part of your day.
1. You have to stand up for yourself, speak up and say that you are just seeking some quiet space to feel calmer and relieve stress. Sometimes it is just a conversation to be had. This might help, but you still have to create your own space. You can do it. It just takes practice. Everyday practice. Just like everything else. Break the nonstop busy cycle.
2. Get up earlier. Start a morning routine. Try using the Daily Motivation Plan to help you start.
3. Spend less time on social media.
4. Put your phone away.
5. Take a 10-15 minute walk around your block by yourself.
6. Sit in your car by yourself for an extra 10 minutes when you can.
7. Get outside every day by yourself for at least 10-15 minutes for fresh air.
8. Stop trying to finish your entire to-do list. Lower your expectations. Celebrate completing 1-3 things a day.
9. Shoot for 10-15 minutes every day of complete quiet.
10. Learn to say NO when you need to. Practice.
One more…at least once a day, take 3-5 deep breaths. Inhale deep through the nose and fill your lungs… exhale through the mouth.
Now go and intentionally chase your quiet, create your calm, and enjoy more peace. Your mind will thank you as it becomes a habit that you will begin to crave.
We all need it.